Tuesday, 24 December 2013
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I've searched the forums for an answer regarding my situation but haven't found directly what I'm looking for. I know I'm deep in ignorance and Im still new to the teachings but im still very young and live with my parents. So my question is are supposed to openly express the teachings even though in todays society deeper spiritual talk is regarded almost like taboo (which is very sad) because I've been restraint with telling my parents and friends about the teachings because they are still very asleep and I fear out of confusion and their reaction would cause to lose the bonds I have with them. Because of this I've been rather secretive with them and this causes me to avoid them so I have time to practice and study. Now my parents have become concerned and ask what Im doing all the time and perhaps Im becoming slightly dishonest by not telling them but I feel if I drop all this information on them (like give them this website) it would be a huge impact and great misunderstanding because they lived their whole lives asleep. I realize its the aquarian age and its time to give this knowledge openly but for some circumstances this may be too much and may even cause the people you love to turn away from the teachings and you.

So should I openly tell my friends and family about the teachings and accept whatever consequences as my own karma? Should I be that open all the time even with people that aren't close to me? because Im still in high school you usually have to go with the social norm or you risk being an outcast and lose your friends and become alone, loneliness usually isnt a problem because i know my divine mother is always with me and i just accept my circumstances but this seems different than that because not only do you risk losing the bonds you had but also a chance other people to awaken BUT what if they would never get this knowledge and you were supposed to tell them..errrrrrrgggghhh. This is the predicament im in.

I've also tried dropping hints to my parents like a great master would so as for them to awaken themselves but i realize that may never happen and I cant hide from them forever. I know I should be asking my own inner being because only he knows what to do but im new and its still hard for me to know what he's trying to tell me. Im sorry for spilling out my personal problem but some guidance from someone with experience would be very helpful.

Thank you blessed people for all you do. Im eternally grateful.
8 years ago
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#5186
Accepted Answer
Knowing what to say and who to say it to, as well as at the appropriate time, is a difficult art. That is something only you can determine through deep self-reflection.

I will state that if you are worrying your parents, you must examine your behavior and make serious modifications. Are you certain you are acting right by avoiding the ones you love? Are you truly helping them by hiding? Truly, this teaching should deepen self-understanding and comprehension of others. It should deepen our relationships and help us act in more positive ways towards the members of our family. This is part of the Aquarian influence.

However, this does not necessarily mean that you go and preach to them, since that could prove destructive. I remember helping one of my students who to this day still lives with family. When he first entered Gnosis, he became anti-social, reclusive, and rigid in his mentality. He "dropped a bomb" on his family by trying to teach them Gnosis, but in a very strong, uncompromising, and fanatic way, which forever spurned his family against the teachings and deepened their anxiety to the point they felt he needed medical treatment.

He learned the hard way that the best thing was to have kept silent about certain aspects of the teaching, because they were not ready for it. However, to explain how he entered into practices like meditation and was studying religion was not harmful for his circumstance, because his parents were open enough to "New Age" concepts and a resurgence of spiritual philosophy in the west, such as through the popular spread of Buddhism, Yoga, meditation, etc.

He now continues to live with parents, and is making great progress. More importantly, he is relating well with his family, and even while they still think Gnosis is a cult, they do not think anything is seriously wrong with him to the point of necessitating hospitalization, because he exhibits sane behavior, which is always how it should be! If our spiritual practice makes us dissonant with others, especially our loved ones, we need to re-evaluate our behavior and our mentality, because the Intimate Christ within our hearts should help us better relate to humanity, not distance ourselves from it.

You have to gauge your family. Only you know them. Are they Christian? Relate to them through Christ. Are they Buddhist? Relate to them through Buddha. Are they Muslim? Relate to them through Allah and His Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). While I mention this, you have to understand that you cannot get on a pulpit with your family, but to fulfill your role as a good son, student, and disciple. The requisite of all spiritual development is to fulfill our role in society. Right now for you it is high school and your family. Therefore, work to fulfill your role as an essential component of your spiritual practice, not by abandoning your family.

If you want to be honest about your spiritual practice, then explain it to them. But what you should say in particular, is up to you. Only your Innermost can show you how to best relate to others. No one can guide you but God.

To conclude, honesty is the best policy, but this does not mean you overflow a person's cup, meaning: do not give more than what the other person can understand and carry. If you make a mess on the floor for pouring too much knowledge, you will be the one to blame.

And most of all, be at peace! Go have fun with your family, talk to them, and SHOW them that you love them deeply, since they gave you life and they are now deeply concerned with your health and wellbeing. Demonstrate to them that you know how to be a good child and that you appreciate their love for you. When you approach your family out of love, they will likewise respond in a similar fashion, and will also be grateful to you. To quote the Dalai Lama, "My religion is kindness."

Joyful in hope, suffering in tribulation, be thou constant in thy prayer.

Benedictis, qui venit in nomine Domini. Osanna in excelsis.

"Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest!"

8 years ago
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#5186
Accepted Answer
Knowing what to say and who to say it to, as well as at the appropriate time, is a difficult art. That is something only you can determine through deep self-reflection.

I will state that if you are worrying your parents, you must examine your behavior and make serious modifications. Are you certain you are acting right by avoiding the ones you love? Are you truly helping them by hiding? Truly, this teaching should deepen self-understanding and comprehension of others. It should deepen our relationships and help us act in more positive ways towards the members of our family. This is part of the Aquarian influence.

However, this does not necessarily mean that you go and preach to them, since that could prove destructive. I remember helping one of my students who to this day still lives with family. When he first entered Gnosis, he became anti-social, reclusive, and rigid in his mentality. He "dropped a bomb" on his family by trying to teach them Gnosis, but in a very strong, uncompromising, and fanatic way, which forever spurned his family against the teachings and deepened their anxiety to the point they felt he needed medical treatment.

He learned the hard way that the best thing was to have kept silent about certain aspects of the teaching, because they were not ready for it. However, to explain how he entered into practices like meditation and was studying religion was not harmful for his circumstance, because his parents were open enough to "New Age" concepts and a resurgence of spiritual philosophy in the west, such as through the popular spread of Buddhism, Yoga, meditation, etc.

He now continues to live with parents, and is making great progress. More importantly, he is relating well with his family, and even while they still think Gnosis is a cult, they do not think anything is seriously wrong with him to the point of necessitating hospitalization, because he exhibits sane behavior, which is always how it should be! If our spiritual practice makes us dissonant with others, especially our loved ones, we need to re-evaluate our behavior and our mentality, because the Intimate Christ within our hearts should help us better relate to humanity, not distance ourselves from it.

You have to gauge your family. Only you know them. Are they Christian? Relate to them through Christ. Are they Buddhist? Relate to them through Buddha. Are they Muslim? Relate to them through Allah and His Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). While I mention this, you have to understand that you cannot get on a pulpit with your family, but to fulfill your role as a good son, student, and disciple. The requisite of all spiritual development is to fulfill our role in society. Right now for you it is high school and your family. Therefore, work to fulfill your role as an essential component of your spiritual practice, not by abandoning your family.

If you want to be honest about your spiritual practice, then explain it to them. But what you should say in particular, is up to you. Only your Innermost can show you how to best relate to others. No one can guide you but God.

To conclude, honesty is the best policy, but this does not mean you overflow a person's cup, meaning: do not give more than what the other person can understand and carry. If you make a mess on the floor for pouring too much knowledge, you will be the one to blame.

And most of all, be at peace! Go have fun with your family, talk to them, and SHOW them that you love them deeply, since they gave you life and they are now deeply concerned with your health and wellbeing. Demonstrate to them that you know how to be a good child and that you appreciate their love for you. When you approach your family out of love, they will likewise respond in a similar fashion, and will also be grateful to you. To quote the Dalai Lama, "My religion is kindness."

Joyful in hope, suffering in tribulation, be thou constant in thy prayer.

Benedictis, qui venit in nomine Domini. Osanna in excelsis.

"Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest!"

8 years ago
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#5192
This response, along with every response on this forum, is always very helpful and the guidance I was looking for. I realize this is something very delicate and only reflecting on yourself can you know what to do. That I should act with love and patience. I've recently found in a lecture discussing forms of generosity that relates to what has been said here.

Someone who teaches Gnosis or teaches Dharma is like a doctor. As a doctor, you need to know very well the effects of the medicine and the illness of the patient. If you give them too much medicine, they will die. If you give them too little, they will die. So to properly give Dharma, to properly teach Gnosis, requires more and more development of Bodhichitta, which comprehends both the needs of beings and the nature of Emptiness. It is this wisdom, this unification, which gives you the spontaneous intuitive guidance and direct access to your own Being, who can give you the guidance you need.


Hopefully out of love and God I will be shown what to do. Thank you so much for your time and wisdom, this site is truely a blessing. :)
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