Love does not depend on ambition. Love is a spontaneous, beautiful experience of the soul that does not result from one’s desire to find a spouse.
There are many Gnostic practitioners who have a spouse that does not follow these teachings or wish to practice sexual magic. However, due to the presence of genuine love in the relationship, they are still able to find a way to respect each other and cooperate sexually.
My point is that you should not be seeking a spouse with any expectations. You must open your heart and ask your inner Being to guide you. According to karma and our present actions, we will receive what we deserve, not necessarily what we expect or desire.
How is love possible when two people have conflicting values? In the perfect matrimony, samael himself says 'In order for love to exist, it is necessary for a true communion of souls to exist in the three spheres of thought, feeling, and will.'
Immediately after, he gives the example that a woman has her own religion and the man his own, stating 'These marriages crash constantly; they are not happy.'
He couldn't have made it any clearer. So why do you insist that even when a spouse doesn't wish to follow along with the gnostic path, that there is still love between the gnostic and the disbelieving spouse? This is in direct conflict with what samael said. But hey, maybe he retracted some of his views from this book later on in life. Wouldnt be the first time he admitted to being 'wrong' about certain things.