This is something that I've been observing for a while.
I often see people around me suffering for different reasons, psychological problems, some of which I already went through, so I know how they feel. Every time I see people suffering, out of compassion something happens inside me, I am disquieted internally, I feel the urge to do something about it.
I know what they are going through, I know they are suffering, I know it is possible to end that suffering, and I know the way which can lead to the elimination of that suffering. I want to comfort, soothe, and reassure them, to help them. However I'm just powerless. I can do nothing but give shallow advice, I can't even show my concern properly.
I have no remedy for the suffering of others. Sometimes I think: "If I had enough time, and a nice opportunity, and their full attention, I could explain them why they are suffering, and what they need to know and to do to overcome that suffering."
But then I realize that this would require giving people at least a portion of the Teachings, and I know people don't like to hear the truth about things, and they often prefer to remain attached to their suffering rather than accepting the truth and changing their point of view. They are not even remotely interested in spiritual or philosophical discussion.
And I realize that if I gave them this kind of advice they would not understand it, and they would just think I'm crazy or cynical, and this inevitably triggers an egotistical element of shame in me.
So I end up saying nothing at all, or giving basically useless advice. I realize that there are moments in which we must be silent, and in which speaking would be detrimental instead of being beneficial, but in my specific case it looks like that rule applies on every occasion.
I know what I would say to myself if I were in their situation, but I do not know what to tell them.
I'm really concerned about people, but sometimes it looks like I don't care about anyone.
I can't even properly express my concern for their well being. My social skills are overall messy.
Can anyone relate? Could it be helpful to overcome that egotistical element that makes me ashamed of sharing the Teachings? I believe this shame/pride is also the cause of my problem with opening up to people, a problem I always had.