Am I right in saying that transmuting conflicts with others entails first intellectually assessing a situation and finding the errors in conduct from any of the parties involved including myself? Where I run into problems is when beyond a doubt the other party was behaving wrongly and I try to reject this comprehension and accuse myself of being egotistical when I'm actually being intellectually fair to myself. I then emotionally violate my self with guilt specific to that situation (as opposed to guilt specific to past karma) and lose the emotional energy needed to hold compassion in my thoughts regarding that experience. The egotism lies in my potentially negative emotional response regardless of who's right or wrong and not in my intellectual accuracy, am I right? I understand We should always have love even if we're threatened with murder but that doesn't mean its ok for that person to murder us, right?