Of course, as if everyday existence isn't already an intense psychological gymnasium..
How can one approach things such as courting with the those of the opposite gender, after being friends for an amount of time?
It seems like most of the teachings focus on the point AFTER one has a spouse already. If there are a few small references in samael's works can you direct me to which chapters refer to properly managing oneself in the phases of friendship and courting?
In our society it is much more common, to lean towards one extreme, which is over-affectionite, sexual flirtatiousness. Which is becoming ruled by one's internal impulses of the ego of lust.
--but on the other side of the pendulum--
Oftentimes there is a major tendency within practitioners to also avoid, and repress oneself, being afraid to summon courage to court with someone, send a gesture of interest.. As if one is being ruled by the various defects of paralyzing ego of fear.
So in the phase of courting, how can one be able to, for example, know how to tell if the urge to kiss, is a genuine expression of affection, or just a impulse of lust? Especially if one has observed the paralyzing effect of fear and lack of courage constantly in ones life?
As we know this path is razor sharp, to balance between neither craving, nor avoiding.
What are the views from the perspective of the teachings, in regards to this courting phase of man and woman?