Monday, 18 November 2013
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Of course, as if everyday existence isn't already an intense psychological gymnasium..

How can one approach things such as courting with the those of the opposite gender, after being friends for an amount of time?

It seems like most of the teachings focus on the point AFTER one has a spouse already. If there are a few small references in samael's works can you direct me to which chapters refer to properly managing oneself in the phases of friendship and courting?

In our society it is much more common, to lean towards one extreme, which is over-affectionite, sexual flirtatiousness. Which is becoming ruled by one's internal impulses of the ego of lust.
--but on the other side of the pendulum--
Oftentimes there is a major tendency within practitioners to also avoid, and repress oneself, being afraid to summon courage to court with someone, send a gesture of interest.. As if one is being ruled by the various defects of paralyzing ego of fear.

So in the phase of courting, how can one be able to, for example, know how to tell if the urge to kiss, is a genuine expression of affection, or just a impulse of lust? Especially if one has observed the paralyzing effect of fear and lack of courage constantly in ones life?

As we know this path is razor sharp, to balance between neither craving, nor avoiding.

What are the views from the perspective of the teachings, in regards to this courting phase of man and woman?
8 years ago
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#4906
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The courting phase is of critical importance, since it is the time when the man and woman are making one of the most important decisions in life. During courting, the couple is determining how compatible they are in every level: mental, emotional, and physical. It should not be rushed or avoided. An extended courtship will strengthen any future relationship. The best marriages begin in friendship and harmonious, equal communication.
In order for love to exist, it is necessary for a true communion of souls to exist in the three spheres of thought, feeling and will.
To learn more about what is at stake, read chapter one of The Perfect Matrimony. It is also advisable to read the entire Mystery of the Golden Blossom and Matrimony, Divorce, and Tantra.

Men and women have delivered themselves to the debauchery of good customs, thus the outcome cannot be anything but the failure of their matrimonies. What is built upon a false basis becomes false. To be married based upon passion, to be married based upon economical interests, based upon social conveniences, etc., leads to an inevitable failure.

In order for love to exist, the complete, mystical communion of man and woman is necessary in all the levels of their minds. If in the seven levels of the Being there is not a complete communion, then the outcome is divorce.

Love is like a solitary tree that is illuminated by the Sun. Love is like a newborn child. Love is like an ineffable rose bathed by the light of a full moon. Love and passion are incompatible. Love and passion are two substances that cannot be combined. Love is absolutely innocent. Where there is Love, jealousy, anger, and resentment cannot exist, because Love is incompatible with all of those lower passions.

Love begins with a flash of delectable sympathy. It is substantiated with the force of tenderness, and it is synthesized in adoration. A Perfect Matrimony is the union of two beings: one who loves more, and the other who loves better.

Before getting married, it is necessary to self-explore our “I” very sincerely and profoundly, in order to totally self-discover our selves. We must use the scalpel of self-criticism to extract the passion we have within, and place it on the carpet of crude reality.

At times it is better to know how to renounce , instead of failing lamentably. It is urgent to discover if indeed the plentitude of love exists within us.

Only on the basis of love can we have a good matrimony. In order for love to exist, there must be affinity in thought, affinity in sentiments, affinity in emotions, affinity in action, affinity in religion and affinity in ideas, etc. Where this mystical communion is missing, love is impossible.
8 years ago
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#4906
Accepted Answer
The courting phase is of critical importance, since it is the time when the man and woman are making one of the most important decisions in life. During courting, the couple is determining how compatible they are in every level: mental, emotional, and physical. It should not be rushed or avoided. An extended courtship will strengthen any future relationship. The best marriages begin in friendship and harmonious, equal communication.
In order for love to exist, it is necessary for a true communion of souls to exist in the three spheres of thought, feeling and will.
To learn more about what is at stake, read chapter one of The Perfect Matrimony. It is also advisable to read the entire Mystery of the Golden Blossom and Matrimony, Divorce, and Tantra.

Men and women have delivered themselves to the debauchery of good customs, thus the outcome cannot be anything but the failure of their matrimonies. What is built upon a false basis becomes false. To be married based upon passion, to be married based upon economical interests, based upon social conveniences, etc., leads to an inevitable failure.

In order for love to exist, the complete, mystical communion of man and woman is necessary in all the levels of their minds. If in the seven levels of the Being there is not a complete communion, then the outcome is divorce.

Love is like a solitary tree that is illuminated by the Sun. Love is like a newborn child. Love is like an ineffable rose bathed by the light of a full moon. Love and passion are incompatible. Love and passion are two substances that cannot be combined. Love is absolutely innocent. Where there is Love, jealousy, anger, and resentment cannot exist, because Love is incompatible with all of those lower passions.

Love begins with a flash of delectable sympathy. It is substantiated with the force of tenderness, and it is synthesized in adoration. A Perfect Matrimony is the union of two beings: one who loves more, and the other who loves better.

Before getting married, it is necessary to self-explore our “I” very sincerely and profoundly, in order to totally self-discover our selves. We must use the scalpel of self-criticism to extract the passion we have within, and place it on the carpet of crude reality.

At times it is better to know how to renounce , instead of failing lamentably. It is urgent to discover if indeed the plentitude of love exists within us.

Only on the basis of love can we have a good matrimony. In order for love to exist, there must be affinity in thought, affinity in sentiments, affinity in emotions, affinity in action, affinity in religion and affinity in ideas, etc. Where this mystical communion is missing, love is impossible.
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