<p>In trying to find a way to be in equilibrium with my wife, I recently became aware of a practice which entails using pranayama and muscular contraction to prevent emission. There is still some sense of 'orgasm', if you will, but there is no seminal release. Aside from the obvious danger of 'slipping up' and having an accidental release, what is your position on this?</p>
<p>It seems to me that there is a lack of mechanical instruction regarding how to relate to the female. My marriage was suffering because following your instructions essentially resulted in my wife being a 'passive observer' of the sexual relationship. I could not bring her to much arousal even because I was so focused on not stimulating myself. The wife then is like a sex doll that just lays there and is very disconnected. I've asked about this before, and the answer seems to be 'yes, she just lays there'. This does not make for a happy female in my personal experience. Is there a different way to look at this?</p>
<p>For me it seems to be either 'learn to please her and retain the seminal fluid any way I can', or 'don't please her and have a failed marriage' or 'resign myself to a life of fornication for the sake of others happiness'. I don't see any other viable options.</p>
<p>It seems to me that there is a lack of mechanical instruction regarding how to relate to the female. My marriage was suffering because following your instructions essentially resulted in my wife being a 'passive observer' of the sexual relationship. I could not bring her to much arousal even because I was so focused on not stimulating myself. The wife then is like a sex doll that just lays there and is very disconnected. I've asked about this before, and the answer seems to be 'yes, she just lays there'. This does not make for a happy female in my personal experience. Is there a different way to look at this?</p>
<p>For me it seems to be either 'learn to please her and retain the seminal fluid any way I can', or 'don't please her and have a failed marriage' or 'resign myself to a life of fornication for the sake of others happiness'. I don't see any other viable options.</p>