The only way to balance "fanaticism" and "indifference" is to annihilate them. The aspirant must discover and comprehend those "I's" of fanaticism and indifference within his interior through self-observation and to beg to his Divine Mother to destroy them in meditation.
There is simply no place in our psyche for the afflictions of dogmatism and apathy; these are obscurations of the mind that prevent us from correctly relating to our Being and to humanity. Since these afflictions cause great suffering in our personal relations and murkiness within our perception, we must therefore resolve, with military seriousness and tremendous will, to comprehend these aggregates in order that Devi Kundalini may extirpate them from our soul, for these elements can only be balanced through comprehension and complete and utter annihilation.
In regards to maintaining a practice regiment, you must also be mindful of time, your psychological energy, and your responsibilities. No one can resolve this issue but you and your Being. Listen to your heart. If you need to sacrifice certain times of the day to practice, then do so, but do so in a balanced way in respect to your terrestrial obligations and duties.
Though the Innermost may seldom interest Itself in outer things, we should always do so, and strive to conform to the laws of this world.
-M. The Dayspring of Youth
You also have to gauge your energy and to be skillful in managing your time in relation to this, since you may be too tired after certain activities to meditate or at certain times of the day, depending on your work.
Again, fanaticism does not resolve anything, since one can practice, but do so in a mistaken and mechanical manner. We need discipline, yes, but not a morbid, self-flagellating, and overzealous repressive attitude. Real discipline is organic and nourishes the soul and Being. It is a sense or sentiment of the consciousness that delights and enjoys engaging in spiritual practice, since the results are clearly defined and recognized. If you feel burdened by the thought of meditation, then you need to re-evaluate your method, application and approach, since meditation should produce sincere feelings of joy and liberation, since it is the path of joy and liberation.
It is not necessary to live isolated from the world. You must be involved in the world, but not be psychologically attached, represented by the hanged Apostolate. Notice how he hangs upside down with his head towards the earth, but only touching it with his thoughts, meaning, he does not identify with materialism or the vanities of this physical plane, but is in constant remembrance of God.
One must be hermetically sealed in one's use of psychological energy, but this does not mean we become dull, lifeless and zombie-like. Instead, the conservation of energy is the result of knowing how to fulfill upright thought, upright word, and upright action within our interior, or the proper use of body, speech and mind. This can only come through constant meditation on our actions, physical and internal, in relation to the law of karma within our life.
If you're confused about what you're reading, stop reading and relax, meditate and reflect. Do not get caught up in the head, but work more with your heart. Meditate on your heart temple and utilize a mantra such as RAM-IO, ONRO, OM MASI PADME HUM, in order to invoke your Divine Mother. She will give you clarity of thought, mind, speech and consciousness if you are diligent in remembering Her presence within your heart. When you know how to better relate with Her, you will know how to better relate to any person you meet, whether spiritual or not. Conflicts exist because of the mind. Therefore, conquer and master yourself, and you will master the world.