What are the mental and energetic techniques to control the sexual energy during the act?
I have been very frustrate with this for a while.
In my understating and experience the effect of sex is much more potent, effective, and enjoyable if the arousal level is high and one becomes immersed in the experience, feeling love and connection to ones partner in a non attached way.
The problem I face with this is that the orgasm starts to feel like it can happen at any moment so it takes a lot of attention away from feeling the love between my partner and I. The more I open my heart and become one with her the faster the precipice of the orgasm will come.
I have gotten a little better with training though. Before I could barely tolerate any friction but now, I still can’t fully immerse myself in the experience.
I know that neurotransmitters play a roll in sexual sensitivity. Low serotonin levels and high histamine levels can be a physical cause of this problem.
I have taken anti histamines before such as benadryl and it certainly helps but then the sexual arousal is almost gone and I think works against the potency of the transmutation.
What are some techniques or strategies to overcome this? What I do now is try to remain focused and not become identified with the sensation or emotion to much but it is like I am disassociating from the act so I think it is decreasing the potency of my transmutation. I would like to be in the moment with my partner and not be on edge the whole time waiting to disconnect because I feel an orgasm about to happen.
Thanks!
I have been very frustrate with this for a while.
In my understating and experience the effect of sex is much more potent, effective, and enjoyable if the arousal level is high and one becomes immersed in the experience, feeling love and connection to ones partner in a non attached way.
The problem I face with this is that the orgasm starts to feel like it can happen at any moment so it takes a lot of attention away from feeling the love between my partner and I. The more I open my heart and become one with her the faster the precipice of the orgasm will come.
I have gotten a little better with training though. Before I could barely tolerate any friction but now, I still can’t fully immerse myself in the experience.
I know that neurotransmitters play a roll in sexual sensitivity. Low serotonin levels and high histamine levels can be a physical cause of this problem.
I have taken anti histamines before such as benadryl and it certainly helps but then the sexual arousal is almost gone and I think works against the potency of the transmutation.
What are some techniques or strategies to overcome this? What I do now is try to remain focused and not become identified with the sensation or emotion to much but it is like I am disassociating from the act so I think it is decreasing the potency of my transmutation. I would like to be in the moment with my partner and not be on edge the whole time waiting to disconnect because I feel an orgasm about to happen.
Thanks!