It seems to me that until I 'just know' my wife and I must continue our practice of sexual alchemy. For me that means I want to practice daily, aside from the Sabbath, in order to reach the goal. However, my wife does not. We are most definitely not equally yoked when it comes to balance of spiritual experience or maturity.
I have read this:
http://sacred-sex.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=134&catid=13&Itemid=40
It says what time of day and such but not how often as far as if it should be done daily. Or maybe just when one feels the need to create energy.
This causes confusion for me because that basically means I can't get a full Kundalini awakening unless my wife is in the mood. This can't be right. How can the salvation of an individual be dependent upon another individual?
Am I correct that I will 'just know' when I have developed past the point of needing to practice sexual alchemy? If not, are there signs I can be aware of that will let me know it's time to move on?
I have it in my mind that it is a step by step process. Maybe this is where I am getting fowled up. Is there an order in which to do the work or do I just do what fits at the moment? This would be an ideal system to follow, but Alchemy seems to have a formula to follow and so does Kabbalah.
Thank you and may Peace and Love be abundant.