Comprehension transcends dualism of the mind, "he is right" or "I am right," or "he is wrong" or "I am wrong." We must remember that there is virtue within the villain and vice within the virtuous. Compassion is born from the cognizance of how human beings are drive by unseen forces, a multitude of "I's" that have taken over and abused their intellectual, emotional, and motor-instinctive-sexual centers. "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do."
Study the perfection of patience in The Way of the Bodhisattva by Shantideva, for as this master teaches us, our aggressors are doing us a favor by provoking our defiled emotions to manifest, since through their observation, we in turn learn more about ourselves and work towards the elimination of defects. Thus, our aggressors damn themselves so we can in turn save ourselves. So the truth is, going beyond dualism, we are responsible for bringing others down! This anecdote helps to cut through the dualism of victim vs. victimizer in the mind in order to arrive at comprehension, so we do not act in mistaken ways.
However, if a situation or person is harmful, you do not need to let yourself be abused. Yet in most cases, we tend to feel irritation or frustration when things don't go our way, when the truth is that minor inconveniences help us to discover our outstanding defects.
Joyful in hope, suffering in tribulation, be thou constant in thy prayer.
Benedictis, qui venit in nomine Domini. Osanna in excelsis.
"Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest!"