What matters is that there is love. Many people do not start with a perfect matrimony, since this is something that is usually developed in a gradual manner.
While such love may not extend within all the planes of cosmic consciousness in a perfect way, what matters is that love exists, even if it is but an embryo.
Only the perfected souls know how to really love. A perfect matrimony is like the resplendence of the sun compared to us, who are but flickering candles. Such is an embryo compared to the eagle that is born in full flight upon the mountain of initiation.
For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami