Lately, I have been going through a number of ordeals in my life, and it has been difficult. Sometimes we fell the need to talk things over with someone, just to unload and get some advice. There are other times, when you do this and your realize the conversation turns into gossip. Sometimes gossip tends to be a bit juicy, interesting, and even funny...but it's not a good virtue to behold.
When I perform retro-spective exercise at night, or just a short reflection throughout my day, I think to myself (catch) myself after the fact, and I say to myself" You shouldn't have said such-and-such.... but I get so caught up in the moment, that I don't realize what I'm saying and what the consequences might be later on. Sometimes I don't even consider the consequences/impact because most of the time when there's gossip, the subject matter is not present. (Guilty as charged)!
Sometimes I feel bad about things that I have said about an individual, but othertimes I don't because I feel them to be true.
This also brings to mind about how I should be more concious of transforming impressions, but I can't seem to get ahead of the ball on that.
Can you offer any advice on how to put a lock on my tongue, and remember my being? I really want to change this quality in myself because there are times when i don't like it. I am aware of it. Sometimes at social events hosted by the company I work with/private or public.. i don't like going, because people stand around drinking, sometimes smoking, and talking about senseless chatter....... just downright nonsence......
So, when i choose not to go, people think I am being unsociable..... sometimes I don't care, but there are times when I feel alone or ostrasized. I am aminority in my work place, so I know that I have some deep feelings about that as well.
I am trying to keep it all together... and balance my life... it's not easy. Thank you so much for listening and giving us access to this wealth of knowledge. We are eternally grateful.
Peace
When I perform retro-spective exercise at night, or just a short reflection throughout my day, I think to myself (catch) myself after the fact, and I say to myself" You shouldn't have said such-and-such.... but I get so caught up in the moment, that I don't realize what I'm saying and what the consequences might be later on. Sometimes I don't even consider the consequences/impact because most of the time when there's gossip, the subject matter is not present. (Guilty as charged)!
Sometimes I feel bad about things that I have said about an individual, but othertimes I don't because I feel them to be true.
This also brings to mind about how I should be more concious of transforming impressions, but I can't seem to get ahead of the ball on that.
Can you offer any advice on how to put a lock on my tongue, and remember my being? I really want to change this quality in myself because there are times when i don't like it. I am aware of it. Sometimes at social events hosted by the company I work with/private or public.. i don't like going, because people stand around drinking, sometimes smoking, and talking about senseless chatter....... just downright nonsence......
So, when i choose not to go, people think I am being unsociable..... sometimes I don't care, but there are times when I feel alone or ostrasized. I am aminority in my work place, so I know that I have some deep feelings about that as well.
I am trying to keep it all together... and balance my life... it's not easy. Thank you so much for listening and giving us access to this wealth of knowledge. We are eternally grateful.
Peace
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Thank you for your response:
I will try to get the essence of the scripture. It's quite poetic. Where is the scripture from?
I will try to get the essence of the scripture. It's quite poetic. Where is the scripture from?
It is much a crime to be silent when one must speak, as it is to speak when one must be silent. Knowing how to speak, to utilize the sacred word, is a tremendous work. Only comprehension in meditation can guide you as to how you must act within a given circumstance. This is an intuitive process that is only learned through hard-earned and difficult experience.
If you know that certain social situations are detrimental to your spiritual life, only you can know whether it is necessary to avoid them or not. Sometimes the only thing necessary to change is one's attitude. I remember when entering into Gnosis, I became very unsocial, creating numerous problems for myself. I realized, once my Innermost confronted me, how I was mistaken: my Gnostic practice should help me better relate to others, and He even went so far as to demonstrate for me how I should act. He mentioned to me a famous comedian and He has even been humorous on specific occasions within the internal worlds! It was truly enlightening, because my Being demonstrated that I did not necessarily have to break friendships, but to transform my mind-state so as to better relate to others. Knowing how to do this without compromising the Lord takes Self-remembrance, Self-observation, and meditation.
When I think about chatter, and how I too must learn to guard the tongue, I think of the following scripture. I would recommend meditating on its contents in relation to your own life:
If you know that certain social situations are detrimental to your spiritual life, only you can know whether it is necessary to avoid them or not. Sometimes the only thing necessary to change is one's attitude. I remember when entering into Gnosis, I became very unsocial, creating numerous problems for myself. I realized, once my Innermost confronted me, how I was mistaken: my Gnostic practice should help me better relate to others, and He even went so far as to demonstrate for me how I should act. He mentioned to me a famous comedian and He has even been humorous on specific occasions within the internal worlds! It was truly enlightening, because my Being demonstrated that I did not necessarily have to break friendships, but to transform my mind-state so as to better relate to others. Knowing how to do this without compromising the Lord takes Self-remembrance, Self-observation, and meditation.
When I think about chatter, and how I too must learn to guard the tongue, I think of the following scripture. I would recommend meditating on its contents in relation to your own life:
My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation.
For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.
Behold, we put bits in the horses' mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body.
Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth.
Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind:
But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God.
Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.
Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?
Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.
This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.
For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
Joyful in hope, suffering in tribulation, be thou constant in thy prayer.
Benedictis, qui venit in nomine Domini. Osanna in excelsis.
"Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest!"
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Thank you for your response:
I will try to get the essence of the scripture. It's quite poetic. Where is the scripture from?
I will try to get the essence of the scripture. It's quite poetic. Where is the scripture from?
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