1. The orgasm is a spasm, the peristaltic movements or contractions of the sexual organs accompanied by seminal discharge.
2. Refrain or restraint means to not let the energy flow out, but inward and upwards. It also refers to not letting lust take the vital winds to send them out. You will learn this gradually through practice.
3. Don’t run towards the cliff to the point that you can’t stop. If you have too much heat due to sexual movement, stop moving and withdraw if you need to prevent the orgasm. However, you should learn to transmute without building up so much energy that you lose control.
4. Transmutation occurs through the presence of the fire, control of breath, mantras, concentration, imagination, prayer, and conscious love.
5. You know you are transmuting when the energies subside and the sexual organs lose their heat of their own, not through seminal discharge. You may also experience stronger concentration, awareness, serenity, chastity, love, virtues, etc.
6. Connect for a minute or two if you can’t control the fire for prolonged periods or through too much movement. Train yourself gradually to connect, even if it means you do not fully connect with your partner. Once you gain control and stamina you can connect for longer periods of time. But we recommend you start with a minute or two, and then prolong the connection as you master your mind and energies.
7. The energies are in the vital body and will not be affected.
8. Practice when you and your wife are inspired by love. You do not need to practice everyday. Each couple has their rhythm and temperament. Listen to the rhythms of your wife, and let her be the one who inspires you to practice. Both partners must practice when the conditions are just right, not through force or habit. Otherwise we commit violence against nature.
9. Meditate upon and annihilate lust daily.
10. No. The date and the significance of that arcanum are separate things.
For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami