Do not stimulate so much fire that you cannot control it, inevitably leading to the orgasm. The sexual organs must make contact gently. Movement is only necessary in order to stimulate some erotic fire. The sexual act should not be constant rubbing and penetration, for this is vulgar, animalistic sex. You must learn to withdraw once both partners have fully transmuted their energies; you must learn to gauge your own body and to intuitively know when to finish with the practice.

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