Dear Teacher,
I have been seeing a guy of 40 year-old for almost a year now.
He smokes heavily and eats bad food. By bad foods, I mean heavily preserved/colored food, like noodle/tofu/meatball (yes, our street food uses formaldehyde as preservative and textile-dyes for food coloring). I care for this guy, and been worrying if his physical body gets ruined soon by these habits. I tried to make him care for his body better. During our daily conversation, often I slipped in facts about bad/good foods effects to the body/organ.
Until now, I haven't seen improvement. If anything, it gets worse. He smokes heavier these days, from 1 pack before, to 2 packs now. Sometimes, he even ate heavily-preserved/colored food, just to spite me, or so it seemed. I realize that my own habits, or my talks about physical health, to him maybe feel like undermining his pride. So maybe, he just wanted to show that he did not care.
I cannot use religious/spiritual view points to discuss about our life habits. Because, although he was brought up in Islam tradition, he is not too invested in it. He doesn't pray the 5 times daily, or fasting during Ramadan, or reading Qur'an/Tafsir, or even mention Islamic law, in any life decision/situation.
I don't know what to do now. Kindly help.
Thanks, Noni
I have been seeing a guy of 40 year-old for almost a year now.
He smokes heavily and eats bad food. By bad foods, I mean heavily preserved/colored food, like noodle/tofu/meatball (yes, our street food uses formaldehyde as preservative and textile-dyes for food coloring). I care for this guy, and been worrying if his physical body gets ruined soon by these habits. I tried to make him care for his body better. During our daily conversation, often I slipped in facts about bad/good foods effects to the body/organ.
Until now, I haven't seen improvement. If anything, it gets worse. He smokes heavier these days, from 1 pack before, to 2 packs now. Sometimes, he even ate heavily-preserved/colored food, just to spite me, or so it seemed. I realize that my own habits, or my talks about physical health, to him maybe feel like undermining his pride. So maybe, he just wanted to show that he did not care.
I cannot use religious/spiritual view points to discuss about our life habits. Because, although he was brought up in Islam tradition, he is not too invested in it. He doesn't pray the 5 times daily, or fasting during Ramadan, or reading Qur'an/Tafsir, or even mention Islamic law, in any life decision/situation.
I don't know what to do now. Kindly help.
Thanks, Noni