Our 9 year old daughter has her sexual energy coming online. She is expressing it by wanting to kiss her mother and step dad like she is seeing in movies (we tell her not to do it and it's laughed off), touching herself, liking a boy at school, etc.
We've seen the benefits of not orgasming and ejaculating in our own lives which we've transitioned over to, however we're unsure how to have this conversation around masturbation with our child without shaming her or giving her a complex about touching herself.
We are wondering if an instructor or the community have any resources or helpful information around having a masturbation conversation that advocates for non sexual excitement and orgasm, but more self love and respect/appreciation.
We don't want orgasm to be adopted as the release for energy build up but instead to teach her how to channel it resourcefully. This feels like a not so common approach, hence our asking here.
Thanks in advance
Steve and Ester.