Thursday, 19 November 2020
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What is the role of physical attraction in regards to love and transmutation? Is it necessary for there to be a level of physical attraction for transmutation to occur? That is, does a higher level of physical attraction (in the absence of lust and fornication) provide a stronger base for transmutation of the physical energies to occur?

When I say physical attraction, I don't mean it in a superficial sense that is purely physical. I mean the magnetic chemistry of two individuals who complement each other in mind, body and spirit. Where the physical attraction is a true manifestation of the work two individuals have done internally. And I especially am referring to a hypothetical scenario where abundant love exists between the two as this is clearly of the utmost importance for transmutation. Is love and physical attraction mutually exclusive?

My intuition tells me that the answer to this question is that they are not mutually exclusive, which I always thought to be obvious. But as I continue to struggle internally grappling to separate the concepts of lust and love, I find it necessary to reconsider the nature of attraction and its spiritual role. The premise in my mind is that this "physical" attraction in the presence of love provides a bedrock for transmutation to take place as it provides the opportunity to refrain from and eliminate lust, allowing love to take its place and for the transmutation to then be further fuelled by the love and attraction. Is this a correct assumption? Or should I further scrutinise the role of attraction within a Perfect Matrimony?

The implications of this will impact whether I seek out love correlated with attraction or if I allow myself to "settle" for people who I am less attracted to relatively speaking and seek to comprehend how to love purely of spirit instead. I should state again I'm not only referring to physical attraction but the attraction brought about by two people being a truly cosmic match where this would appear unmistakable to one another.

I suppose another aspect to this question aside from the lust is, should the love of a Perfect Matrimony be immediately apparent for individuals who have done the work to reach that point? Or is the Perfect Matrimony something that can be created in any relationship where one is willing to learn to comprehend and grow love in that particular scenario? This is definitely something I need to meditate upon to comprehend further, but I would kindly ask for some clarification.

Am I lustful for assuming that attraction is necessary for transmutation? Either way, I know that I must eliminate lust from the equation and that it is clouding my thoughts.
1 year ago
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#23281
Accepted Answer
Conscious love is discovered between two souls within the spheres of thought (Netzach), feeling (Hod), will (Tiphereth), chemistry (Yesod-Malkuth) consciousness (Geburah) and spirit (Chesed).

Love and sexual attraction are not exclusive. Sexual attraction or chemistry is necessary, but it is not the exclusive factor of marital longevity.

Many people get into relationships based on sexual attraction (Yesod) and emotional affinity (Hod), but in their thoughts (Netzach) they don't relate at all. One partner is Catholic and the other Muslim, etc.

Or, two individuals can be attracted within the body, heart, and mind, but not will (Tiphereth). Such relationships clash horribly and produce a lot of suffering.

Regarding Yesod: yes, sexual attraction is the crux, focus, and crucible in which the other psychological and spiritual dynamics of a relationship coagulate, meet, and transform. "Platonic" relationships without sexual attraction are true failures, because there is no fire to work with.

As to whether or not you will meet the person of your dreams, you have to awaken from your dreams first. Learn to astral travel and communicate with your Being. That is how you will know for certain who your real partner is.

A perfect matrimony is developed upon the basis of sexual, emotional, mental, and volitional affinity, within the spheres of thought, feeling, and will. It initiates as a spark and develops into a bonfire through the work. No one starts with perfection: it is worked for and earned.

The sexual yearning for one's perfect compliment is not lust. However, since we are 97% ego, we project our corrupted desires into the world when seeking an ideal partner. This is the problem.

You have to slay that ideal in your mind in order to appreciate the beauty of your real partner, whom will arrive when divinity needs it, not because you want it.

For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami

1 year ago
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#23281
Accepted Answer
Conscious love is discovered between two souls within the spheres of thought (Netzach), feeling (Hod), will (Tiphereth), chemistry (Yesod-Malkuth) consciousness (Geburah) and spirit (Chesed).

Love and sexual attraction are not exclusive. Sexual attraction or chemistry is necessary, but it is not the exclusive factor of marital longevity.

Many people get into relationships based on sexual attraction (Yesod) and emotional affinity (Hod), but in their thoughts (Netzach) they don't relate at all. One partner is Catholic and the other Muslim, etc.

Or, two individuals can be attracted within the body, heart, and mind, but not will (Tiphereth). Such relationships clash horribly and produce a lot of suffering.

Regarding Yesod: yes, sexual attraction is the crux, focus, and crucible in which the other psychological and spiritual dynamics of a relationship coagulate, meet, and transform. "Platonic" relationships without sexual attraction are true failures, because there is no fire to work with.

As to whether or not you will meet the person of your dreams, you have to awaken from your dreams first. Learn to astral travel and communicate with your Being. That is how you will know for certain who your real partner is.

A perfect matrimony is developed upon the basis of sexual, emotional, mental, and volitional affinity, within the spheres of thought, feeling, and will. It initiates as a spark and develops into a bonfire through the work. No one starts with perfection: it is worked for and earned.

The sexual yearning for one's perfect compliment is not lust. However, since we are 97% ego, we project our corrupted desires into the world when seeking an ideal partner. This is the problem.

You have to slay that ideal in your mind in order to appreciate the beauty of your real partner, whom will arrive when divinity needs it, not because you want it.

For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami

1 year ago
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#23301
Thank you Almustafa. This is a very comprehensive answer which clears some or my confusion and gives me some helpful leads for further exploration.
1 year ago
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#23304
"whether or not you will meet the person of your dreams, you have to awaken from your dreams first."
witty and insightful, thank you almustafa! :p
1 year ago
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#25340
A perfect matrimony is developed upon the basis of sexual, emotional, mental, and volitional affinity, within the spheres of thought, feeling, and will. It initiates as a spark and develops into a bonfire through the work. No one starts with perfection: it is worked for and earned.


Does this affinity exist from the day we were born or it can be developed?

Conscious love is discovered between two souls within the spheres of thought (Netzach), feeling (Hod), will (Tiphereth), chemistry (Yesod-Malkuth) consciousness (Geburah) and spirit (Chesed).


If we are sure we love a person from the opposite sex, is there a way to know, if it is really true or not?

Many people get into relationships based on sexual attraction (Yesod) and emotional affinity (Hod), but in their thoughts (Netzach) they don't relate at all. One partner is Catholic and the other Muslim, etc.


So without affinity in thoughts, we cannot love consciously each other, you mean, so there would be no perfect matrimony. But can this change? What people believe? Or it comes from the Being, so no way to change?

Is there a difference loving somone as your friend and as someone, you are in love with? Can I be in love with someone and still be friends?

Can we do something, in order to deserve a partner, sent from our Being?

Sorry for the many questions, if you can answer a few of them, it would help me. Thank you very much.
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