"A lot of our pain is self-chosen," says Kahlil Gibran.
However, we do not need to persist in toxic relationships. If there is mental, verbal, physical abuse, we can close our doors and choose to associate with more positive and spiritually like-minded people.
We must learn to express our view without anger, frustration, self-defensiveness, violence.
We must always respect others' point of view, providing our own, but not forcing it on others.
If people do not accept our perspectives, we do not need to fight with them constantly or need to prove to them what we think. One time is enough.
It may be our karma to have family members or people close to us who are toxic. If we cannot shut our doors to them, at least we should learn to create healthy boundaries through constructive dialogue and clear communication.
For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami