Wednesday, 18 September 2019
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If one finds themselves in a physically abusive marital relationship and they happen to be the weaker sex in the relationship, physically speaking, should one stay and bear that karma or should one leave?

Does one stay and continue to be physically abused to the point of mortal danger or does one leave?
2 years ago
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#19791
Accepted Answer
We shouldn't let people commit harmful deeds. If we have the opportunity to stop them, then we should act.

We should protect ourselves from abuse. Tolerance for evil perpetuates suffering for both victim and oppressor.

When Chinese soldiers were raping nuns in Tibetan temples, the monks stood by and did nothing because they thought their religion was about tolerance. However, all they accrued was karma.

It would have been better for those monks to have acted, to have protected themselves and the ones they loved from harm.

Tolerance is not acceptable, because it is mercy without justice. It is complacency with crime.

Compassion is better: it knows how to respond with mercy and justice in equilibrium.

In the case of an abused woman, it would be better to get the police involved and for that individual to protect herself with all the strictness of the law.

For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami

2 years ago
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#19791
Accepted Answer
We shouldn't let people commit harmful deeds. If we have the opportunity to stop them, then we should act.

We should protect ourselves from abuse. Tolerance for evil perpetuates suffering for both victim and oppressor.

When Chinese soldiers were raping nuns in Tibetan temples, the monks stood by and did nothing because they thought their religion was about tolerance. However, all they accrued was karma.

It would have been better for those monks to have acted, to have protected themselves and the ones they loved from harm.

Tolerance is not acceptable, because it is mercy without justice. It is complacency with crime.

Compassion is better: it knows how to respond with mercy and justice in equilibrium.

In the case of an abused woman, it would be better to get the police involved and for that individual to protect herself with all the strictness of the law.

For thirty years I sought God. But when I looked carefully I found that in reality God was the seeker and I the sought. -Bayazid al-Bastami

2 years ago
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#19800
So what if in the course of protection, one takes another person’s life or inflicts great physical harm; is there a possibility where such a thing could done in accordance with the law?

That is, no negative karma will be produced.

My question is one of possibility, i’m not looking for an excuse to be violent.

For the longest time i’ve actually held the mindset of ‘tolerance’ which you’ve just clarified so well for me.
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