Sunday, 02 April 2017
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As taught in Gnosis, in ancient times the initiate, after being chaste and spending time in Brahmacharya within the temples would, when they are ready, be given a consort with whom to practice sexual magic.

Things are different in these times. We as disciples of the path should actively find our consorts for ourselves. This begs the question: can a perfect matrimony be found passively by waiting for the right person to come along?

I ask this question with sincerity because I am male and I wonder if finding a partner will truly come by me passively waiting for it to happen. Master Samael advices that we should cultivate certain abilities to enable us to be in the world while walking the path. These include aspects such as finding and cultivating our true vocation, earning an income and actively participating in the world as our psychological and spiritual gymnasium. These things cannot be accomplished if one sits passively and expects the world to come to them in their bedroom. They must apply for jobs, educate themselves about their vocation, manage their lifestyle and finances actively, manage their time so they can engage in daily meditation and spiritual practice actively. These things cannot be accomplished by a passive waiting for these learnings and experiences to come to oneself.

In this vein, up to now what has stopped me from dating and actively pursuing a relationship was the idea, that I read often on this forum as shared by instructors, that one should focus on oneself and wait for the right partner to come along. My question is therefore: will such a partner just come along passively? Is the idea that in all other aspects of my life I must actively learn and engage such as dedicating time to meditation, learning how to meditate, dedicating to learning the Kabbalah and immersing myself in the scriptures, developing a sound vocation that is compatible with daily spiritual practice yet in one of the most important areas of the work - entering into a perfect matrimony - one must simply wait for ones priestess to come to one without actually going out into the world and seeking them out?

Clarifying this is important because I want to do it right. If it is indeed the will of God, of my Being, that I should put on blinkers and simply focus on myself and one day the right partner will emerge out of the blue then I am happy to do so in accordance with the will of my Father. But I find it hard to reconcile that with all other things, living, working, health, nutrition, meditation, the scriptures, spirituality we are implored by the great master to actively work yet in the most important aspect of the path we are encouraged to be passive. Whereas in past epochs being married was a matter of arrangement, or if one was an initiate in the temples their master would find a suitable partner for them so this was not necessary. But in today's world, I cannot just decide that I'm ready for marriage and find someone who is willing to get married on demand. In today's world, which we are encouraged not to shun but instead to use as a gymnasium for our spiritual development in the spirit of Karma Yoga, we have to court our partners, to ask them out on dates to actually express interest and meet them and then get to know them over time.

How then, can the sincere seeker of Gnosis even begin to cultivate a perfect matrimony if one is expected to just shut themselves in their rooms and "focus on themselves". Is this indeed the true way? Or can one still be a sincere seeker while going on dates and exploring relationships. Unfortunately these invariably come with a degree of intimacy, holding hands, looking into eachothers eyes, and even kissing. We are no longer in the era where we can just express interest in words and hope to find a wife or husband. These things require time and attention and a degree of personal investment. And if one finds that they are not compatible with a particular person, they must then move on to the next potential partner.

How then should the sincere seeker of Gnosis reconcile these contradictory expectations on the path? Do I just I work on myself and wait for a sign, ignoring the many potential partners that I encounter every day in the train, on the bus, in the library, on the internet? Or should I perhaps take a moment to stop and say "Hey, how are you? Would you like to grab some coffee?"

Which is best?

Shalom
5 years ago
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#13946
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There is a saying: "Pray to God, but run to catch the bus."

It applies here, too. The role of the male is to pursue the woman. Naturally, you must do this based on your understanding of the teachings AND the guidance of your heart.

Action produces effects. If you take no action, there will be no results. Yet, obviously, you must learn to act in correspondence with the effects you want to achieve. :)

"Do not worry; cultivate the habit of being happy." - Samael Aun Weor

5 years ago
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#13946
Accepted Answer
There is a saying: "Pray to God, but run to catch the bus."

It applies here, too. The role of the male is to pursue the woman. Naturally, you must do this based on your understanding of the teachings AND the guidance of your heart.

Action produces effects. If you take no action, there will be no results. Yet, obviously, you must learn to act in correspondence with the effects you want to achieve. :)

"Do not worry; cultivate the habit of being happy." - Samael Aun Weor

5 years ago
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#13952
Thank you very much! This helps a lot. :D
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