I have had a question like this for years. Reading the books and doing meditations I wanted to place sexual purity as essential in my practice. Not just something to be amused by intellectually. I have recently split from a man who only recently found out he may have homosexual inclinations. This relationship went on for 6 years before this happened. During our time together I insisted on refraining from (I don't know how openly we speak here) the orgasm while he just kind of went along with it, but did not refrain as much as I. I failed many times before taking the doctrine seriously, but not in comparison to him. He seems to want to experiment and then come back to me if it is a "phase".
Am I wrong in thinking that this fallen sexual energy has caused manifestations of homosexual energy in his person? Is it possible to work with him by gaining better mastery over myself or will he lose balance in practicing homosexuality? Should I not be involved with him again? Should we as gnostics look to connect with people within our tradition or other trantric traditions and not seek mates in the non-gnostic tradition as they seem to have no understanding of sexual practice. Everything is very orgasm based.