Greetings, I come with a question that's been of particular concern for me, over the course of years, and it comes with a story that I'll keep brief. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for roughly five and a half years now, and we've grown together in a beautiful way. It feels like my life started the moment I came to Gnosis, and she miraculously appeared in my life soon after discovering the teachings. Through joy and pain, trial and error, success and failure, we are already 23 years old, but we are stagnating terribly, and this is a mutual feeling.
I'll ask the question, then tell the story, then return to the question once more. Is legal marriage, or the physical act of a wedding necessary before developing a sexual relationship with someone? I had an understanding, perhaps misled, that the sexual act itself is marriage, forming that karmic bond that unites two people. If we practice alchemy with someone we know and love without being married in society, is that a crime?
I'm a Taurus, but share Hitler's birthday, April 20th. Samael says that Aries ends the 19th of April, but writes about Hitler as an example of Aries' warlike nature in the Zodiacal Course, so I went to a retreat on the zodiacal course, and we drew from the Tarot to see which chapter was of esoteric significance to us. I drew 1, the Magician, and the chapter on Aries. I stress this fact only because she is an Aquarius, an incredible an revolutionary girl in her own right, but the master strongly suggests caution when engaging in a relationship between a Taurus and an Aquarius.
We attended a gnostic school for roughly two years and our instructors gave us a private talk after first chamber about sex. They told us not to worry if we have had sex in the past (though we haven't), but informed us that it was necessary to be married before doing so. It did not bother me, but it did upset her deeply that day, and it is unfortunate that it took me years to take this into full consideration.
I asked her to marry me on our 4th anniversary, and she was not ready for the societal demands that ensued, and it has bothered her ever since. I only wish to do the correct thing, to make her happy and not to chain her down - but I wish to face the truth, and perhaps I just need to awaken and find this answer within. She has been depressed for quite some time and it feels as though she's growing cold towards me. She tries to be sweet to me and blame it on her vegetarianism, or her parents stressing her out, or financial issues, but I'm positive it stems much deeper.
So to clarify - Is sex before marriage a crime? I trust my instructors, but I would like to see if it is written in scripture, or by the Master that we should wait for marriage. It is common practice in society, but definitely more rare these days. Should we wait and hone our patience for horizontal events to occur, such as income and buying our own apartment? I confess to a lack of study recently, and have been meaning to ask this question for a long time but have been too embarrassed and barricaded by years of senseless guilt and shame. On my birthday yesterday, we were fortunate to talk for several hours over coffee about our situation in life, in a serious and loving manner. We are plagued by repression, and that is something we can work on immediately.
Thank you sincerely for your consideration in reading this. We will work in our own way and hopefully achieve an answer from within.
Inverencial Peace,
Amuro
I'll ask the question, then tell the story, then return to the question once more. Is legal marriage, or the physical act of a wedding necessary before developing a sexual relationship with someone? I had an understanding, perhaps misled, that the sexual act itself is marriage, forming that karmic bond that unites two people. If we practice alchemy with someone we know and love without being married in society, is that a crime?
I'm a Taurus, but share Hitler's birthday, April 20th. Samael says that Aries ends the 19th of April, but writes about Hitler as an example of Aries' warlike nature in the Zodiacal Course, so I went to a retreat on the zodiacal course, and we drew from the Tarot to see which chapter was of esoteric significance to us. I drew 1, the Magician, and the chapter on Aries. I stress this fact only because she is an Aquarius, an incredible an revolutionary girl in her own right, but the master strongly suggests caution when engaging in a relationship between a Taurus and an Aquarius.
We attended a gnostic school for roughly two years and our instructors gave us a private talk after first chamber about sex. They told us not to worry if we have had sex in the past (though we haven't), but informed us that it was necessary to be married before doing so. It did not bother me, but it did upset her deeply that day, and it is unfortunate that it took me years to take this into full consideration.
I asked her to marry me on our 4th anniversary, and she was not ready for the societal demands that ensued, and it has bothered her ever since. I only wish to do the correct thing, to make her happy and not to chain her down - but I wish to face the truth, and perhaps I just need to awaken and find this answer within. She has been depressed for quite some time and it feels as though she's growing cold towards me. She tries to be sweet to me and blame it on her vegetarianism, or her parents stressing her out, or financial issues, but I'm positive it stems much deeper.
So to clarify - Is sex before marriage a crime? I trust my instructors, but I would like to see if it is written in scripture, or by the Master that we should wait for marriage. It is common practice in society, but definitely more rare these days. Should we wait and hone our patience for horizontal events to occur, such as income and buying our own apartment? I confess to a lack of study recently, and have been meaning to ask this question for a long time but have been too embarrassed and barricaded by years of senseless guilt and shame. On my birthday yesterday, we were fortunate to talk for several hours over coffee about our situation in life, in a serious and loving manner. We are plagued by repression, and that is something we can work on immediately.
Thank you sincerely for your consideration in reading this. We will work in our own way and hopefully achieve an answer from within.
Inverencial Peace,
Amuro